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How To Boost Your Happiness Hormones to Live Longer

How To Boost Your Happiness Hormones to Live Longer

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The happiness hormones serotonin and oxytocin don’t only help fight depression. They also cut heart disease, stroke, and Alzheimer’s risk by strengthening arteries, so nutrient-rich blood quickly reaches your organs.

Send some love.

Taking one minute to let someone know that you’re thinking about them can bring about an increase in your oxytocin production 

Take a scented soak.

Relaxing in a warm bath scented with rose, vanilla, jasmine, or lavender can keep your blood levels of serotonin and oxytocin elevated by soothing your brain’s anxiety center. And when your brain is relaxed, it needs less serotonin and oxytocin to function, so more of those hormones are available to cells in the rest of your body.

Take 5-HTP.

Taking 100 mg. of 5-HTP increased serotonin levels, improving mood, energy, immunity-and even fat-burning. Want to sleep more deeply? Taking 5-HTP 30 minutes before bedtime can help. Cutting calories a priority? Take 5-HTP 30 minutes before your biggest meal each day.

Consume protein at breakfast.

After a night of not eating, blood levels of amino acids- the building blocks of serotonin and oxytocin- are low. The fix: Eat a meal containing 2 oz. of amino acid-rich protein, such as eggs, meat, or cheese. It’ll rev the enzymes that keep serotonin and oxytocin levels up, cutting your risk of the blues and blood sugar woes 33%.

Eat berries and kale.

Eating two cups each of berries and leafy greens (like kale) weekly could up your serotonin levels. Both foods are rich in anthocyanins, nutrients that encourage your brain to produce and release this “happy” hormone.

Watch TV.

Getting caught up in a fun, romantic, or emotionally gripping program-enough to make you root for one of the characters- will send your oxytocin levels soaring. Your brain processes movies as if they’re happening, and the empathy you feel for a character stimulates oxytocin release.

Source: Woman’s World Specials: Reverse Aging

Natural Ways to Lower Your Risk of Breast Cancer

Natural Strategies to Help Prevent Breast Cancer

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You can’t do anything about risk factors like your age, sex, race, or family history. But you can lower your risk in other ways, using these specific breast-cancer prevention strategies.
 

Make lentils.

Red, orange, yellow, or gold lentils have protease inhibitors, which are anti-cancer compounds that are so beneficial. Just eating two cups of these legumes each week can cut your breast cancer risk. Simmer them in unsalted water or broth for about 30 minutes until tender. They’re natural in soups, delicious sautéed with potatoes, onions, and spices, and also make a great cold salad.

 

Wear a sleep mask.

Try wearing a sleep mask if your room isn’t dark. Sleeping in pitch black doubles your brain’s production of melatonin, a hormone that improves sleep quality and is also toxic to cancer cells.
 

Eat grapes.

Enjoying one heaping cup of red, purple, or black grapes (or 8 oz. of purple grape juice) each day will cut your lifetime risk of breast cancer. Darker grapes are rich in three nutrients (quercetin, kaempferol, and resveratrol) that strengthen your immune system’s ability to find and destroy suspicious breast cells before they can cause harm.
 

Add a little Evoo.

Extra-virgin olive oil contains a whopping 75% oleic acid, which is a healthy fat that destroys cancer cells on contact. Plus, it helps switch off the HER2 gene linked to a heightened risk of developing breast and ovarian cancers. In fact, simply using 2 Tbs. of extra-virgin olive oil instead of other fats in your diet could cut your breast cancer risk.
 

Enjoy avocados.

Avocados have a beneficial plant-based fat that doubles the ability of your immune cells to find and destroy precancerous and cancerous breast cells. And you only need to eat 1/3 cup daily to benefit! Snacking on nuts also does the trick.
 

Open the windows.

Avoiding chemical air fresheners and scented candles cuts breast cancer risk. Chemically scented products release compounds into the air that mimic estrogen in your body, speeding abnormal cell growth.
 

Consume real vanilla.

Vanilla extract isn’t only a flavor enhancer for cakes and other desserts. It is also an herbal extract with potent cell-protecting powers. Vanilla’s active ingredient stops healthy breast cells from turning cancerous. Add a few drops to your coffee, tea, milk, yogurt, oatmeal, smoothies.
 

Toss in garlic.

Garlic’s aroma comes from sulfur compounds, aromatic nutrients that hinder the growth of precancerous breast cells. Eating one small clove daily can cut your breast cancer risk. If you are worried about bad breath, eat a small apple after your meal.
Divorce Survival Tips

8 Divorce Survival Tips

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Women need to be careful when they are hit with a divorce, because they can easily let themselves be taken advantage of without even realizing it. These 8 divorce survival tips can help you make it easier on yourself.

Make Copies

Be sure to have copies of everything, because if you don’t, they will probably be gone when you realize you need them. Put these things in a safe deposit box that only you can access.
Things you need copies of include:

  • Tax returns (last 3 years)
  • Account statements from banks and investment firms
  • Pay stubs
  • Insurance information
  • 401K information
  • Stocks
  • Receipts
  • Mortgage statements
  • Loan agreements
  • Credit applications (which typically lists assets that you may need to know as the divorce progresses)

Check Your Credit Report

Make sure you know what your credit report looks like and have any errors fixed. Then make a list of any debts that are joint accounts, because no matter what the divorce decree says, if both names are on the debt, both of you are responsible for it. If he decides not to pay it, it will affect your credit.

Open Accounts in Your Own Name

You will need to build credit independent of your husband (and his income). At the very least, you will want to open bank accounts in your name only. If you don’t have much of a credit history because thins are in his name, open a credit card or two in your name.

Know Your Social Security Benefits

Did you know that if you’ve been married for at least 10 years, you may be entitled to half of your spouse’s social security benefits? This can be the case even if he remarries. There are some conditions that need to be met, andyou can more by visiting the Social Security website.

Get a P.O. Box

If you are still living in the same home, or if there is any possibility that he can access your mail box, you will want to ensure your correspondence is safe. You will likely be getting mail from your attorney as well as other private things relating to your divorce. This is information he should not have access to, so get yourself a post office box, just to be safe.

Change Your Passwords

Even though experts warn against it, most of us use the same password over and over, or choose passwords based on things in our lives. Since you have been sharing your lives up to this point, your passwords may be very easy to figure out, allowing him access to your email, social media, shopping sites and anything else accessible via computer.

Secure Irreplaceable Items

Photos, jewelry and other special items that can’t be replaced should be moved to a secure place where they can’t disappear. Keep in mind, your memories are often memories shared by him. If possible, consider making copies so you both have the mementos that are important to you.

Join a Support Group

You might think this isn’t needed, but when your emotions get the best of you, you will need someone to talk to. Mutual friends may not always be the best choice, and it’s never a good idea to badmouth your spouse in front of your kids when you’re upset. A support group, or even a therapist, will allow you a safe place to express your feelings without causing problems for anyone else.
A group can also help keep you level-headed when you have important decisions to make that will affect your future. In addition to these 8 divorce survival tips, you may also be able to learn other strategies to help you during this difficult time in your life.

Marriage Worth Fighting For

Is your marriage worth fighting for?

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Only you can really answer that, but I want you to consider some important facts. Most divorced couples do not anticipate the great pain suffered from a divorce that many times affects the rest of their life. Many think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, but the truth is that your grass is just as green, but may have some dandelions and mole holes. These are fixable just as many of the problems in a marriage can be fixed. It just takes some work and commitment.

What if only one of you want to work on the marriage? Then that’s what you have to do. If one is working on the marriage, it can still be much better than it’s ever been. You don’t want the same marriage back. It wasn’t working. You want a brand new marriage with the same man that will be better than ever because of the work going into it in developing yourself and being confident with who you are. Imagine what you want your marriage to be like. Then set goals for yourself to get to what you imagined. Do not allow yourself to backslide, but keep moving forward.

Another thing you really need to consider for your marriage is the children. They are affected greatly by both of your choices of staying together and working on the marriage or divorcing. Kids really want their parents to stay together, except if there a huge amount of fighting or abuse involved. If you both decide to divorce, it takes away the security of being part of a family. Also, letting the kids witness how you work on your relationship will teach them to do likewise when they get older. It’s a legacy that you can leave them to live successful lives in meaningful relationships.

There are so many benefits to staying together. As you journey through the relationship rehab, you may find as you rediscover yourself that you are a pretty awesome lady, and shouldn’t be treated like “the old wife.” You are an individual that has a lot to offer. You are a special person and anyone who tells you different is not worth your time. Do not allow others to control who you are by defining you. You will grow into the person you are meant to be. Your story is not done yet … there are plenty of chapters still being written.

Make the choice of what you will and will not tolerate in a relationship, and stand by your choice. The pride you have in yourself will speak volumes to everyone. Instead of being needy for emotional approval from your husband, give it to yourself. Don’t allow anyone to limit you. In rediscovering yourself, you will be attractive to your husband, as he also sees for himself that you are a person of great value and worthy of his respect and attention.

Never Date A Married Man

Never, ever date a married man

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What do you do when you meet some guy that you are really interested in and then find out he’s married? Short answer: RUN! (Reaffirm, Unlatch, Next) Let me break this down for you a bit.

Reaffirm your goals for a relationship. You want a prince of your very own and not have to share one with another who happens to be his wife. She has priority over you, no matter what he tries to tell you. If he has children, you go even further down the list. The promise to leave his wife for you is mute until his address has changed, but still you need to consider that he cheated on her. That probably is an indicator that he would also cheat on you. You may have heard all the awful things about her, but that is only one side of the story.

Your goals are for a happy and fulfilling relationship with someone that you can trust. You want them to love you for who you are, not as a means of escape from another relationship. You are worth having your goals met in a man.
Unlatch your claim to him for there was no real commitment from him. It is time to send him home where he belongs. Do not answer his phone calls or meet him at any time. The cord has been cut in your relationship and it is time for you to move on to better things.

Next, learn from your experience and keep an eye out for your Prince Charming. Take an active role in meeting new people and going to places that will not remind you of the married toad you just released. Soon, the pain of that transition will become a distant memory as you experience better things. Be confident in knowing that you made the right decision in letting him go. You deserve so much better, and you can have it!

The Five Love Languages

The 5 Love Languages

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One of the biggest banes of a marriage is the absence of love. Many couples have experienced terrible fallings-out because one or the other feels unloved and underappreciated.
What husbands and wives often fail to realize is that people express, interpret, and expect love in different ways. Often times, a marriage is not entirely loveless, it is just that one loves in a language that the other does not understand.
According to marriage counselor Dr. Gary Chapman, people speak five different love languages:
Words of Affirmation. Some people need to hear the words “I love you” constantly. Unsolicited compliments are also always welcome while insults and other negative words leave them inconsolable.
Quality Time. There are people who believe that undivided attention and spending time together is the sincerest form of expressing love. It is disappointing for them when dates get postponed or their partners get easily distracted.
Receiving Gifts. For people who speak this love language, love is best expressed with thoughtful gifts that aren’t necessarily expensive. Sometimes, a simple card is enough as long as their significant other exerts effort.
Acts of Service. Those who express love through acts of service often aim to ease the burden of responsibilities for their better half. This can be as straightforward as loading the dishwasher or mowing the lawn.
Physical Touch. This isn’t confined to intimacy in the bedroom. This can include holding hands, pats on the back, hugs, and any thoughtful touches.
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Choose Happiness in your Intimate Relationships

Choose Happiness in your Intimate Relationships

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Speed bumps are common in relationships. Fights happen and expectations can’t always be met but that shouldn’t deter a couple from giving a peaceful relationship. Yes, it takes work but the effort will always be worth it.

Here are some things to remember in order to have a sound relationship with one’s significant other:
Give the Other Person the Benefit of the Doubt. Sometimes it helps to think that your significant other hadn’t really meant to hurt you. Put yourself in their shoes and try to rationalize the situation from their point of view.

Don’t Play the Blame Game. Sometimes when we feel inadequate about ourselves, we blame the other person. Look inwards and determine the root of your negative emotion. Sometimes, the problem can be found within us. The solution will be obvious thereafter.

Don’t Act when you are Emotional. Strong emotions such as hurt, frustration, and anger can lead to irrational reactions and decisions. Acting on emotion can lead to regret in the end so try to calm down first before trying to do anything.
Choose Your Battles Wisely. Not everything should be turned into a fight. Confrontations are healthy in a relationship but fighting doesn’t solve anything all the time. Don’t let everything bother you.

Take care of Yourself. Some lose themselves in a relationship so much that they forget that they are an individual that needs constant nurturing. Channel some of that TLC towards yourself. Remember that you cannot love another person fully if you do not love yourself.

Keeping Anger Out Of Intimate Relationships

Keeping Anger Out Of Intimate Relationships

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Anger is normal under any circumstance, even in relationships, so keeping anger out of intimate relationships is even more important than ever. People get upset over things or even with their partners. More often than not, the problem lies not on anger per se but on the way a couple manages this situation. Anger doesn’t kill a relationship but holding on to it does. Here are some tips to deal with anger for couples:

*Address anger right away. Never leave your significant other with his or her rage because doing so will only make matters worse. Acknowledge your partner’s feelings and understand what he or she is upset about. Listen well so that you can both work towards solving the problem at hand.

*Share your feelings too. Avoid passive aggression at all costs. Express your anger, nervousness, or frustration. Open communication is vital when it comes to dealing with anger in a relationship.

*Recognize the fact that sometimes, you are not really angry with your partner but rather on the situation. More often than not, it’s not the person that really causes the negative feelings but what he or she did or failed to do.

*Let anger go. There are things that are not really worth getting upset over and it is important to recognize that harmonious relationships only happen when both parties are willing to accept certain things.

Top 10 Anti-Aging Foods

Top 10 Anti-Aging Foods

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Now it’s time for the fun part: all the good foods you can eat that will also protect you from aging. Some of these foods may seem unfamiliar to you, but that’s okay. Experiment with different ways of preparing them and you’ll open up a whole new world of culinary delights.

1. Turmeric: If you love Indian food, you’re in luck because this is one spice you’ll want to use a lot because it is packed with benefits. It is really great in any kind of food so stock up. Turmeric has been shown to help prevent cancer and also protects brain and skin cells from free radical damage. This means your concentration can improve and wrinkles will appear more slowly.

A 2013 study published in Cellular Physiology and Biochemistry stated that “Age-related cerebrovascular dysfunction contributes to stroke, cerebral amyloid angiopathy, cognitive decline and neurodegenerative diseases.” But, curcumin, the active ingredient in turmeric, after one month of use, showed promising results. “Curcumin treatment may be an effective therapeutic strategy to reverse age-related cerebrovascular dysfunction. Curcumin administration may represent a promising lifestyle intervention for preventing age-related cerebrovascular disturbances.“

If all that isn’t enough, turmeric has also been shown to be an anti-inflammatory. It improves blood circulation and acts as an anti-coagulant. What all this means is, if you have joint pain from arthritis or another disorder, turmeric can help with the pain. It also helps treat sprains, strains and bruises. With so many benefits, you can see why turmeric is listed as the number one anit-aging food.

2. Cruciferous Vegetables: Green cruciferous vegetables like cabbage, broccoli and Brussels sprouts have been found to help reduce the risk of memory loss contribute to bone health. They may also help prevent cancer. These benefits are due to green veggies being rich in folate, calcium and other vital nutrients.

3. Leafy Greens: Leafy greens like spinach and kale are rich in the antioxidants zinc, beta-carotene and vitamin C. These nutrients are shown to help protect against macular degeneration as you age. Spinach also contains lutein, a nutrient known to improve skin elasticity.

4. Pomegranates: A bowl of pomegranate seeds is reminiscent of a bowl of shimmering rubies, but you’ll find them valuable for keeping wrinkles at bay. Pomegranates are rich in vitamin C, powerful antioxidant that fights free radicals that damage your skin. Pomegranate juice contains both ellagic acid, a polyphenol compound that fights damage from free radicals, and punicalagin, a supernutrient that has been found to increase your body’s capacity to preserve collagen.
Pomegranates are best enjoyed as the whole fruit. That is, eat a cup of seeds each week instead of drinking the processed juice. Fruit juices are not as healthy as whole fruits because the sugars are more concentrated (giving you more sugar per serving than you need) and you lose the benefits of fruit fiber.

5. Berries: Cranberries, blackberries and blueberries all are rich in anthocyanins. Anthocyanins are antioxidant compounds that improve brain function and muscle tone. They may also slow certain types of cancer. They may also improve heart health and protect against obesity.

Anthocyanins can also be found in pomegranates, grapes and red onions. They are what give these foods their bright color. A bowl of mixed berries is a treat for sure, and your body will thank you.

6. Salmon: Salmon, and other cold water fish like tuna, sardines and mackerel, help keep your skin looking young and healthy because they are rich in omega-3 fatty acids. Omega-3s strengthen cell membranes to moisture can’t escape. They also reduce inflammatory compounds that age your body faster.

7. Walnuts: Like salmon, walnuts and other nuts are rich in omega-3s. They are a good snack if you want to lose weight because they fill you up fast without eating very many. Nuts also have lots of minerals that make your immune system stronger. In addition, they aid in digestion, help balance cholesterol levels, and contribute to healthier looking skin. Research has shown that the omega-3s in walnuts may also reduce inflammation that leads to age-related dementia.

8. Tomatoes: Because they contain the antioxidant lycopene, tomatoes help keep your skin young. They may also reduce the risk of heart disease and some types of cancer.

9. Red Grapes: Another antioxidant rich food, red grapes have one called resveritol. In studies, resveritol extended the lives of lab animals. It also has anti-inflammatory and anticoagulant properties that contribute to a healthy heart. Enjoy the fruit or, on occasion, some grape juice or red wine.

10. Olive Oil: Olive oil has monounsaturated fat – that’s the good fat – that is found to reduce cognitive decline according to a study from the University Medical Center Utrecht in the Netherlands. This could be due to the anti-inflammatory effects of omega-3s which inhibits the synthesis of cytokines and mitogens, which slow cognitive function. So keep your brain sharp as you age by using olive oil in your foods.

Breaking up is hard to do

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I tend to talk so much about manifesting a relationship, some have called me the Fairy Princess of Love.

But today I want to talk to you about a more tender, yet vitally important topic . . . the ending of one.
I’ve seen time and time again how a bad breakup can hinder new love from taking root for years . . . and sometimes even decades.

As far as I’m concerned, bad breakups are one of the most underrated traumas a person can live through. Along with losing your partner, you can also lose your sense of identity—who you are and how you fit into the world.

You can lose the vision of the future you were planning to have together and were organizing your life around. You might lose your home, your social group, or a portion of your belongings. And, worst of all, you might even lose daily contact with your children.

You may become depressed, unable to eat, have trouble sleeping, and sometimes not want to get out of bed for days on end, obsessed with trying to figure out what happened, and unsure how to move on with your life.

It can actually be a struggle just to get through the demands of a normal day. If you feel that you need some additional help getting through your breakup, please reach out to someone who cares