“I just wanted to reach out to share with you how much of an impact the Self-Love exercise you instructed for me has opened my eyes.
I now realize that before the exercise, other than putting make up on in the morning, I really couldn’t stand looking at myself and wouldn’t again for the rest of the day. I also have come to realize that because I didn’t know that I didn’t love myself, I was unknowingly self-sabotaging any prospective relationships, whether romantic or friendship. I’ve become shockingly aware now what I was doing when I would meet someone. I would quickly go into “they probably won’t like me mode” and would talk myself down so I wouldn’t have to deal with the disappointment of them rejecting me. What a weird and sadly sick cycle I was caught in for so so long. Constantly over-apologizing for odd things. Not loving myself didn’t allow me the opportunity to love outside myself. And because I didn’t love myself, I would accept any type of treatment from people no matter how bad or wrong it was thinking that that is what I am worth.Through the self-love exercise, I now look forward every morning to greeting myself in my little video chat to let myself know that I love “me”, and that I am worth it, and that I’ve got this girl, and that all things are possible!
Going forward, I now seem to hold my head up higher throughout the day and I am no longer nervous to meet new people, I can just be myself, my best-self! And the best part is, I can now say at most any time of the day, that I just feel “happy”. Before that, my mindset was mostly indifferent. I am getting stronger in no longer allowing people to talk to me or treat me in ways that don’t reflect my worth.
I am loving the path of self-love, self-growth, and self-worth that you have been working on with me and wanted to thank you for time well-spent together.”
“Sometimes you hit a point in life where you’re stunted and need someone to set direction and give a push. I had reached that point this past summer. The cobwebs in my head had already been cleared through therapy, so I decided to try a life coach this time around. I filled out a questionnaire on Thumbtack.com (an online professional referral service, similar to Angie’s List) and received a response from Abbe immediately. She was positive she could help me. I explained that I had gone through a very traumatic divorce that ended right before the pandemic, and then I was isolated throughout most of the pandemic and that I was an absolute mess. I told her straight up that I needed someone who had experienced similar pains in his/her life, who had come through the other side, and who was willing to share his/her experiences with me. Unlike with psychotherapy, where a wall between client and professional is often necessary, I wanted a friend who could be kind and attentive but also tough enough to keep me moving forward in life. Someone who could serve as a model of personal and professional success. Someone vulnerable enough to admit their failings (or gremlins, as Abbe likes to call them). Someone with whom I could connect.
Abbe is all of this and more. It’s apparent from the moment you meet her that she’s in it for the right reasons. Life coaching chose her, not the other way around. And just like in those kooky infomercials, Abbe’s services come with the slogan, “But wait, there’s more…”. Not only is she caring, intuitive, attentive, present, and vulnerable, but she also happens to be extremely qualified in an area in which I’m very interested – homeopathy and holistic remedies. She’s constantly thinking of new remedies to help me with my headaches and fatigue. And she’s referring me to specialists with whom she’s close. She actually thinks of me in her off time. She’ll send me emails about ideas she has for me, and she’s available and responsive by email anytime I want. She’s a true partner in my mental and physical health. I have a strong suspicion that Abbe will be in my life for a very long time, and I would highly, highly, highly recommend Abbe to anyone who thinks they could benefit from a caring, devoted, highly intelligent life coach – whether it’s for a quick kick in the butt to get “unstuck”, an entire life makeover, or somewhere in between.”