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10 Tips for a Happier Relationship

10 Tips for a Happier Relationship

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No matter how good your relationship is, there is always room for improvement. In fact, making the effort to keep things fresh is probably the best tip I have to create a happier relationship. But that can be broken down into more specific actions that will strengthen your relationship, whether you already think it’s perfect or if you feel like it needs a little help.

1. Focus on the positive.

Every day, think of one thing you really appreciate about your partner. But don’t just think about it. Tell him what it is you appreciate. “I really love how you make me a cup of coffee every morning.” “I really appreciate how you always pick up after yourself.” “It makes me happy that you always remember to say thank you when I do something, no matter how small it is.” When someone feels appreciated, they will do more things for you to appreciate!

2. Kiss and tell.

Make it a point, every time you leave or greet your partner, to kiss him and tell him you love him. And I’m not talking about a little peck on the cheek. I’m talking about a real kiss. Kissing triggers the production of oxytocin in the brain. Oxytocin is known as “the love hormone” because it works to strengthen the bond between two people.

3. Keep learning.

You may think you know everything about the person you married, but I bet there’s still a lot you don’t know. Deepen your relationship by asking open-ended questions. Ask his opinion, not something that can just be answered with a yes or no. Who knows? He may even learn a thing or two about himself.

4. Don’t stop dreaming.

Everyone has dreams. Don’t forget them when you get caught up in the everyday routine of making ends meet. Spend some time relaxing and ask, “If you could do/have/make/experience anything, what would it be?” Spend some time day dreaming about things you both would like to do or accomplish and maybe even brain storm ways to make those things happen. Then offer your support because when you support each other’s dreams, you become closer and stronger as a couple.

5. Never stop dating.

Set aside one night a week to just dress up and have a good time. Do the things you used to do before you got married. Remember what made you fall in love and re-live those things. There is only one rule: You can’t talk about bills, kids, work or anything else that is part of your mundane day-to-day life. If you struggle with this, it’s a sign that you need to work on it more. Don’t give up! Your relationship is worth the effort.

6. Use the power of touch.

Touch connects us physically, but looking for opportunities to touch will create a stronger emotional bond as well. Hold his hand, rub his shoulders or let your thigh rest against his while you sit next to each other. Just like kissing, touch releases hormones in the brain that build your emotional bond.

7. Find a common ground.

We can’t always agree on everything, but at least make the effort to meet in the middle. In many relationships, one person is always the one to give in. But in strong relationships, partners care about each other enough to not always have to get their own way. Keep it fair for both of you.

8. Seek out the positive.

If you need to bring up something negative, make sure to wrap it in plenty of positives. “I love watching movies with you but I have a hard time with the volume being so loud. If you turn it down just a bit, I can still enjoy the funny comments you make during the movie.”

9. Live in the moment.

When you focus on now, you’re less likely to obsess about the past or stress over the future. Certainly it’s important to make future plans, but focusing on the now will bring more joy to your relationship.

10. Keep it real.

Don’t exaggerate faults or use terms like “You always…” and “You never…” when you have disagreements. Don’t bring up issues that don’t relate to the situation you are discussing. Focus on what’s really happening and discuss your feelings instead of blaming him for how you feel. After all, no one can make you feel something. Your feelings and how you respond to them are your choice, so own them.
These are just a few tips that will strengthen your relationship and make it more solid every day. When you keep these tips in mind, you’ll find yourself falling more and more in love. Your man will feel that growing love and his love for you will grow more, too. You’ll have a relationship that most people only dream about!
Want to learn more? My Relationship Bundle has a much more in-depth look on how to meet and land a real catch, how to keep him interested, as well as a unique perspective about how men perceive us.

Unhealthy Stress – How your Adrenal Glands Can Affect Your Health

Unhealthy Stress – How your Adrenal Glands Can Affect Your Health

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I realized last week that I may have been burning the candle at both ends. After a restful weekend, my body wanted to crash at about 4pm on Monday afternoon. I had went to the gym that day – well actually went to two gyms that day – and by late afternoon I felt extremely fatigued and achy. I didn’t have the symptoms of any type of flu but surely felt like I had the onset of some sort of flu virus coming on. It dawned on me that I had been pushing myself too hard and I was under a great amount of mental, emotional and physical stress for the past few months. My adrenal glands were not happy!

Looking back over the past few weeks and maybe even months, I realized the significant amount of stress that I was under left my cortisol levels too high. This can lead to disruptive sleep and days filled with caffeine cravings. In my case, this past week the added stress left me with lower cortisol levels, leaving my immune system exposed and overreacting to pathogens.

Support your Glands!

What Are Adrenal Glands Anyway?

The adrenal glands are a key organ system for managing fluid balance, managing inflammation and providing sustained energy throughout the day. The adrenals help you sail through the negative effects of stress, including emotional, mental and physical stress, and they fight fatigue and muscular weakness.

Today’s stressful lifestyles and poor “fast-food” dietary habits have a cumulative stressful effect on the adrenal glands. You may even find that your cravings for salty foods stem from your adrenals losing the ability to balance minerals like sodium, potassium and magnesium in your blood. In turn, this leads to cravings for foods which will replace the sodium that we have lost. Your ability to respond to stress well is directly affected by adrenal function. It directly affects your level of muscular strength, blood sugar levels, energy levels and sense of well being.

Symptoms of Adrenal Fatigue

  • Asthma
  • Dark Circles under the eyes
  • Dizziness
  • Dry Skin
  • Extreme Tiredness an hour after exercise
  • Frequent urination
  • Joint pain
  • Loss of muscle tone
  • Joint pain
  • Low blood pressure
  • Low sex drive
  • Lower back pain
  • Numbness in your fingers /Poor circulation
  • Weight gain

Stress Hormones

Stress hormones such as cortisol are produced and regulated by the adrenal glands. They are created to help the body to deal with stressful situations by increasing the heart rate and the force of contraction and blood flow to the heart, liver, skeletal and adipose tissue. They also dilate airways to the lungs and increase blood levels of glucose and fatty acids. Stress hormones and their effects are linked to virtually every body system. Thus, many physiological processes and bodily functions, including cardiovascular health, sex drive, pH balance, skin conditions, energy levels, mood and overall psychological outlook often correlate to adrenal gland function.

In my ebook Secrets of Weight Loss, Diet and Staying Lean Forever (which is also part of my Health & Beauty Bundle) I discuss foods to eat and avoid for healthy adrenal function.

Prevent Symptoms of Menopause Naturally

Prevent Symptoms of Menopause Naturally

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Perimenopause and menopause are natural processes that every woman goes through. They are not diseases or disorders, so why do so many women go to the doctor when they enter this period of their lives? The truth is, if your body isn’t balanced, the symptoms of menopause can be pretty miserable. Hot flashes, mood changes, weight gain… you may feel like your body is out of control and you don’t know how to get that control back again. Don’t worry. You’re not alone. And even better? There are things you can do to control those symptoms without resorting to prescriptions.

(Suffering from a cold this winter? Read this post!)

Herbs to Prevent Symptoms of Menopause

Herbs work wonderfully for preventing menopause and perimenopause symptoms because they are able to adapt to your body’s needs. Because of this ability, they can adapt to your hormonal fluctuations, helping to ease symptoms. Here are some of the best herbs for menopause:

Ashwagandha
Sometimes called Indian Ginseng, Ashwagandha is an adaptogen herb that can help improve libido, improve sleep, and reduce depression and anxiety.
Black Cohosh
Native Americans knew that Black Cohosh root was useful in treating sleep disturbances, irritability, hot flashes and night sweats experienced during menopause and perimenopause. It may also increase vaginal lubrication.
Chasteberry
Also known as Vitex, Chasteberry balances the pituitary gland which in turn balances the production of estrogen and progesterone in your body. It can help relieve hot flashes, depression and the irregular menstrual cycles of perimenopuase.
Dong Quai
This herb has been used in Chinese medicine for over 2000 years and is known as an herb especially helpful for women. It helps fight fatigue and may help with irregular menstrual cycles.
Hops
Not just for making beer, hops have a powerful form of phytoestrogen called 8-prenylnaringenin. When taken daily, studies have found that 8-prenylnaringenin can prevent hot flashes, improve sleep, and reduce irritability.
Passionflower
This beautiful flower is used to treat insomnia because of its ability to relax and calm you. It’s also useful in treating anxiety because it helps increase the production of GABA in the brain. In fact, research has shown it to work better than some prescription medications for treating anxiety with out the side effects.

Did you know? Herbs can not only do wonders for preventing your menopausal symptoms naturally, but they can also help slow or even prevent signs of aging, boost your immune system, cure insomnia, among other things! To learn more, check out my books The Power of Anti-Aging Herbs & Vitamins and The Power of Bio-Identical Hormones.

Lifestyle Changes

Herbs can really work wonders for your health, but to work their best you should also follow a healthy lifestyle. Daily exercise, at least 30 minutes a day, will help help control menopausal weight gain, improve your mood and help you sleep better. A proper diet is also essential. Make sure you have plenty of fruits and vegetables at each meal. Don’t forget to get enough protein and don’t be afraid of healthy fats. Eliminating grains can also produce amazing results in your overall health.

If you’re already having trouble sleeping, try to stick to a sleep schedule, even on the weekends, because adequate sleep is essential. Of course, make sure to drink plenty of clean, fluoride-free water. Eliminate processed foods and focus your diet on whole foods and the menopausal period of your life will be just another happy chapter in your book.

Ladies-let’s not be Jealous

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Hey Ladies-

Just wanted to reach out and touch on that ugly topic of Jealousy! You know about that ugly headed monster, right? Well I am here to tell you the facts about men, jealousy and your new attitude ! anytime a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself.

Remember, inside the bedroom as well as on the outside, men are used to woman acting and sounding jealous. If you want to get his attention YOU need to act differently. You need to be walking around with the confidence that you aren’t concerned in the Least about other woman. You don’t try to compete, measure up or compare!

If you don’t trust him then stop seeing him. But, until you have a reason not to trust him you should absolutely behave as if you do. Your actions should always convey the confidence “Well, Of Course , he wants to be with Me.” Give it a try ladies and fill me in on your results.