We all have had bad dates and bad relationships. We’ve probably all been on an awful date that we almost couldn’t believe it happened. But if you’re tired of the bad dates, it’s time to take control and follow this advice. These tips will help you stop attracting the wrong guys and start meeting someone perfect for you!
- Be honest about what you want.
- Be realistic about the type of relationship you want.
- Don’t be afraid to let people down gently, but don’t stay in bad relationships just because they’re convenient or easy.
You Don’t Have to Be Perfect to Be Happy When Dating
It’s easy to get caught up in comparing yourself with others, but this only leads to unhappiness and frustration. If someone else has a great relationship, they probably worked hard for it–they didn’t just stumble into it by accident! And if someone else has an amazing body, they probably spent hours at the gym working on it. The point is that everyone has their own unique journey toward success–and that includes dating success! All couples face unique challenges behind closed doors; successful couples learn to connect back quickly after a conflict.
Be Honest and Confident
Don’t be afraid to say what you want, don’t be afraid to say no, and don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. If someone asks you out on a date and then cancels last minute because they have “something else going on,” don’t accept an alternative date with them immediately.
Instead, tell them that if the other plans fall through for whatever reason (and there’s no reason why they should), that would be great, but otherwise, you would like some space just in case something better comes along later in the week or month.
The key here is being confident enough not only about your own worth but also about who you are as an individual so that when someone tries taking advantage of your kindness or generosity by canceling plans last minute without offering any apology, instead of feeling bad about yourself because maybe he wasn’t interested after all…you just shrug it off.
Learn How to Say No
Say no to things that don’t fit with your goals.
Say no to people who don’t treat you well and let them go.
Say no when someone is toxic, even if it’s hard and messy (and sometimes it will be).
Figure out what you want.
The first step to finding a good match is figuring out what YOU want. You can’t expect to find a great partner if you don’t know what will make YOU happy, so take some time and think about the things that matter most to you in a relationship. Looking at other successful relationships is a start. What do you admire about their relationship?
Get out of your comfort zone.
There’s nothing wrong with being in your comfort zone, but it can also be a little boring. You know what else is boring? Going on bad dates.
If you’re tired of the same old same old and want to try something new, here are some ideas:
Get out of your comfort zone! Take up a hobby like photography, pickleball or painting–or even sign up for an art class at the local community college. The point here is that there are so many opportunities out there for people who want them–you have to take advantage of them!
If this sounds too ambitious right now, start small.
Don’t stay in bad relationships just because they’re convenient or easy.
It’s easy to convince yourself that you should stay with someone who isn’t right for you, but it’s not worth it. You don’t owe anyone anything–not even your time and energy when they aren’t treating you well. If someone makes you feel miserable, then it’s time to leave them behind and focus on finding someone who treats you with kindness instead of cruelty.
Don’t be afraid to let people down gently.
Don’t be afraid to let people down gently if you’re not feeling it. If someone is making you uncomfortable, it’s OK to say no thanks, even if that person is your good friend or another important person in your life. It’s better to be honest than to lie because that way they’ll know where they stand with you.
If this sounds harsh, remember: You deserve respect as much as anyone else does! You have to worry about your own needs and happiness so you can be the best version of yourself at all times.