Why do we fall in love with the people we do? The basic reason is what I call the images that are created from our past- they are a buried internal images created in childhood of one or both of our caretakers. This image serves two purposes: it helps the baby recognize and distinguish the…
read moreCoaching so many of my married clients who so desperately want to have a perfect marriage really got my wheels spinning to create this entry. Is there really a perfect relationship out there? Is there really a perfect marriage? I would like to challenge you to accept and expect imperfection in your marriage. Expect that…
read moreLadies, It seems that one of the most pressing questions I receive from my female clients who are unhappy in their marriage is “Should I stay and work on my marriage or should I divorce?” Obviously this is a very personal question that needs to be handled based on your situation but there are some…
read moreIn life we have the tendency to make Assumptions about Everything. The problem is we believe our Assumptions are true. We could swear they are real and create stories in our head to back up our perceived truths. We make an assumption about what someone did or said , we misunderstand, we take things personally,…
read moreHave you ever smiled when you were really angry? Have you ever acted mean and upset when inside you were just really afraid? Do you ever laugh at things or say it’s no big deal when inside you were feeling very sad and rejected? This is what I mean when I say not telling the…
read moreHave you ever wondered why intimate relationships can make us so crazy? People close to you will act like mirrors, reflecting back to you an emotion you are actually trying to suppress. So if you continue to suppress your fears about something your partner will probably hold a mirror to you and say : ”…
read moreWoman get frustrated with their guys and they automatically want to “talk” about it. To their girlfriends, neighbors and to their man. Let’s talk we say. Guess what ladies. Men don’t respond to talk they respond to action. If you want to get your mans attention take ACTION. Your action may mean no contact if…
read moreWhy do we fight and bicker with those that we love the most. We know it doesn't make us happy yet we continue to do so. Our perception of what our partners does to us is the root of all of our fighting. We look at an action that was done to us and then find fault…
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