Coming Up…The Bachelorette Finale

Wow, I will have to admit I enjoy watching the Bachelorette. This season was a bit slow for me all and all but that was quickly made up with the last two episodes. Two weeks ago we watched Brooks say goodbye to Des . He basically told her that I enjoy our time together but when we are apart I don’t miss or think about you. I feel this dilemma gets set up for many of the men on this show since they are not the pursuers but the one’s being pursued. This role reversal is never beneficial for a woman. I think the ONLY reason it is able to work is because the men, just like most men, are naturally competitive. So they play to win. I was secretly wondering the whole time if Brooke came back if Des would take him back. Not because true love prevails but because woman with love self esteem exist that don’t want to listen to men when they TELL you they are not interested. Had this situation taken place at home I can 100% guarantee that Des would have held on and continued to pursue him….But, this isn’t back home. This is the Bachelorette.
With two men left Des quickly gets rid of Drew the one who probably would have loved and adored her the most. He was just too much for her too handle. To good, to much love… Sorry Drew, really thought you were a cutie.
So were left with Chris. And Des is faced with the dilemma of letting this man go who seems to love and adore her also. She seems to dig down deep and decide to accept his love. Other’s judge her saying how could she love Brooks one day and then say she loves Chris the next day. I get and understand that point but challenge all of the ladies out there today…Which choice in life, in marriage will turn out better for Des? She could have stuck with Brooks, chased him and convinced him to love her. Had a rocky relationship of always wondering and worrying about how much he cared about her and always looking over her shoulder to “see” if he was eyeing up other woman and searching for the Woman of his dreams…..the one he would miss every second of every day while they were apart.
Or, she could do what she did and pick a guy to settle down with who is madly in love with her, writes her poetry, cares about her and wants to be with her forever. Hmmmmm, I think when we are faced with this dilemma in real life relationships and you feel ” But, I love him…” just like Des loved Brooks you need to ask yourself. “How is that love thing working for you?”
Romantic love is wonderful , it is great, but it is short lived when trying to make a marriage work for “forever”
Way to go Des , for making the right decision. I’ll put my bets on this one lasting…