We’re back for Step #2 of our journey to save your marriage. In Step #1, we learned to approach your relationship with an open mind. Now, it’s time to get crystal clear about what you want. Buckle up, because setting your relationship goals is where the magic begins!
Step #2: Know What You Want
Ever heard the saying, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there”? Well, it applies perfectly to your marriage. Setting specific relationship goals is like plotting your course on a map. It gives you direction, purpose, and a clear vision of what you want to achieve.
Start by Setting Your Specific Relationship Goals
The act of writing down your goals is powerful. It means you’re taking action, committing to change, and, most importantly, making your dreams real. When you see your thoughts written down, they become tangible.
Here are some guidelines for effective goal-setting:
#1: Focus on What You Want, Not What’s Missing
It’s easy to get caught up in complaints about your marriage. Instead, shift your focus. Think about what you want to see in your marriage. For instance:
– Instead of thinking, “I hate when he avoids me,” think, “I would like him to be in the same room with me after dinner.”
Rule #2: Think Action
When goal-setting, be specific about the actions you will take to improve things. For example, make it a goal to go out for dinner at least once a month. This adds a practical, actionable dimension to your goals.
Rule #3: Think Small
Appreciate the small achievements in improving your relationship with your partner. Instead of dwelling on what your partner isn’t doing for you, focus on the things they are doing to make things better. Also, acknowledge the small efforts you’re making.
Remember: Patience is Key
It’s important to accept that the problems you’re facing in your relationship won’t magically vanish overnight. Relationships take time, effort, and commitment. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you work together towards your goals.
How Coaching with Me Can Help
Navigating these steps can be challenging, and that’s where I come in! My coaching sessions are designed to guide you through these processes, helping you uncover and fix issues in your marriage. Together, we’ll craft personalized goals, devise actionable plans, and build a stronger, more fulfilling marriage.
So, take the plunge and start setting your relationship goals. Remember, it’s the journey that counts, and with the right goals, you’ll be well on your way to saving your marriage. Stay tuned for Step #3!