If you’ve ever been in a relationship, you are familiar with the game of hard to get. It’s not always fun to play, but it can be effective when done right. In this article, we’ll give you some tips on how to play hard to get so that you can get what you want.
Let’s start with a quick definition of what playing hard to get means.
Playing hard to get is a game that involves making someone chase you. It’s a way of making someone want you more, and it can also be used to get someone to like you more.
As with any game, there are rules: You don’t want to be too available or too distant; you need to strike the right balance between being approachable but not easily attainable. But how do we accomplish this? How do we play this game without coming across as desperate or mean? The answer lies in these eight tactics!
Learn to be comfortable alone.
The first step to playing hard to get is learning to be comfortable alone. Being alone is not a bad thing, and it can even benefit you as an individual. If you’re used to spending time with friends or family all the time, then learning to enjoy being on your own will help you in the long run anyway.
Being alone doesn’t mean that you have no one else around at all; it just means that there isn’t anyone else currently present at that moment in time. You can enjoy doing things alone or even have some quiet time.
You might also feel happier when there aren’t any distractions from others around – this could mean working on something creative. Really take the time to appreciate your alone time.
- Be aware of your strengths and weaknesses.
- Know what you want and don’t want.
- Be aware of your own feelings and the other person’s feelings.
Know when to call it quits.
The third trick to playing hard to get is knowing when to give up. If you’re not interested in someone, don’t let them waste your time. Don’t let someone else’s lack of interest affect your own!
There are a few ways you can tell whether it’s time for you to walk away:
Your gut tells you so. If something doesn’t feel right or something doesn’t click with the person, trust that feeling and don’t push yourself too far just because they seem like they’d be the perfect partner.
Only play hard-to-get if you’re interested in the first place!
This is a big one! If you’re not interested in someone and they ask for your number, don’t give it to them. It’s not worth leading them on or wasting their time stringing them along. You can be kind about it (and I recommend doing so), but do yourself a favor and say no.
If someone seems like they might be into you, but then they stop texting back—let it end right then and there! Your time is also valuable; don’t waste it by getting involved with someone who may never reciprocate your feelings.
Don’t let yourself be pressured into something you don’t want to do.
This is a common tactic used by others to get what they want, but if you are uncomfortable with it, don’t do it! Even if it’s for a good cause or something similar, never let someone pressure you to do something that makes your gut feel weird.
The first step to mastering the art of playing hard to get is to be selective with whom you spend time, whom you give your attention to, and what you do with your time.
If someone isn’t giving you what you want from them (e.g., respect), then cut them out of your life until they start acting right. Please don’t waste any more energy on them!
Don’t be too available.
He’ll get bored and move on to the next girl if you’re always around. Be sure to leave space between dates, so he doesn’t get tired of seeing your face all the time- but don’t go overboard by disappearing for weeks at a time, either! If you’re never around, he’ll wonder if there are other guys in your life who are keeping you busy (and maybe even jealous).
You don’t have to play hard-to-get all the time. It’s a tactic, not an identity! The whole point is to make someone think about you more and maybe even pursue you more aggressively. It is natural to want what we don’t have. It is also a huge turn off to be too needy in a relationship. It’s a balancing act of being hard to get but also not turning your romantic relationships into game playing.