For some men, love and relationships can be one of the most confusing aspects of life. Here’s a few insights that might help you better understand your man and your relationship.
Men can tell you how many points their favorite sports team scored yesterday. They know how to fix a leaky faucet or repair a broken transmission. But when it comes to love and relationships, they’re lost in the woods without a compass (or GPS).
Men wonder if someone likes them for their looks or money or for who they really are on the inside? What does it mean when your girlfriend cries at movies? Is there such thing as unconditional love? How do I know if she’s “the one”? Why do women behave so strangely sometimes? What attracts women to me anyway?”
These questions may seem trivial, but they have very serious ramifications: Relationships are difficult enough without having misunderstandings over communication leading you down dead ends by assuming too much about what your partner needs from you (or vice versa).
Men have difficulty communicating feelings.
Men are more comfortable with action than words. If you notice that your man is having a hard time communicating, he may be trying to avoid the topic of the conversation altogether. Men can also begin to avoid feelings and emotions in general. This can make it difficult for them to open up about themselves and their feelings, especially when they’re stressed or anxious.
Men want you both to be happy together as well as individually so if there’s something bothering him, he will let you know in his own way what’s going on inside him but only if he feels safe enough with the relationship for this communication to take place
The result is that they never learn how to deal with their feelings in a healthy way.
It’s important to recognize that not all men were taught the ability to express their emotions.
As children, boys are told things like: “Boys don’t cry.” They’re taught to suppress their feelings and pretend they don’t exist. This means that when they are older and in relationships with women who have been taught how to process their emotions (and who may have an easier time doing so), the result can be a man who doesn’t know how or simply isn’t comfortable talking about his feelings.
A man’s primary and most dangerous weakness is his defiance, his feeling he must be the one to call the shots and do the deciding.
It’s important for men in relationships to learn to communicate. And one of the most dangerous weaknesses that men have is their defiance, their feeling they must be the ones calling all the shots and deciding everything. But when he learns how to share his feelings with her, she will appreciate him more and be more understanding of what he wants out of life. It also helps him get through those times when he feels overwhelmed by circumstances beyond his control or frustrated by other people who are not being helpful (like coworkers) or even himself (because he knows better than everyone else).
So don’t just stand there—learn how to communicate!
Men desire respect above all else, more than love, more than sex.
A big part of having respect for one another is learning how to communicate effectively with each other. Men desire respect above all else, more than love or sex. Respect is something that needs to be earned by both parties if there is any hope for a relationship lasting long term.
The foundation for building a successful relationship lies within the ability of both partners being honest and open with each other so that they can build mutual trust and understanding throughout the course of their lives together as lovers/friends/spouses/partners etc…
They want to be respected for who they are as a person and for what they do.
Men need to feel respected for who they are as a person and for what they do. They want to be known as a good guy—a man of integrity, with good values and high moral standards. Men also need to feel respected for their specific skills, whether it’s raising children or fixing cars or cooking (or any number of other things).
It’s not enough simply to respect the abstract idea of a husband; you must also appreciate your husband as an individual human being with specific qualities and talents. This isn’t always easy because men sometimes go out of their way not to show off their strengths or weaknesses—but if you want your marriage to work, then both partners have got to learn how much better it feels when they’re appreciated instead of ignored.