Why are intimate relationships so challenging?

Why do we fight and bicker with those that we love the most. We know it doesn’t make us happy yet we continue to do so. Our perception of what our partners does to us is the root of all of our fighting. We look at an action that was done to us and then find fault in it. We not only find fault in them but we find it in us also.

The only way to be released of this crazy pattern of chaos is to choose to see peace instead. You need to have “selective remembering” and focus on the loving things our partners do and say for us and let go of the rest. If our partners behave unlovingly, all of their behavior came from their own fear of ”something” It’s just their stuff. Don’t take it personally and fight back. You will just be involved in the chaos.

Its times like this that you need to remember the good about your partner and see them as you know they really are. An enlightened relationship is when both parties are committed to the process of mutual growth and a whole lot of forgiveness. And above all else both parties know they are safe to be who they really are.