Let’s talk about something that even the most successful among us struggle with: the chaos inside our own minds.
I see it all the time with my high-achieving clients. You’ve built an incredible career, achieved financial success, and checked all the boxes of what should make you happy. But instead of feeling fulfilled, you’re battling stress, frustration, and maybe even loneliness in your personal life. Sound familiar?
Michael A. Singer, in Living from a Place of Surrender, sheds light on why it’s so hard to just be okay. And let me tell you—this lesson is a game-changer.
Why Do We Feel This Way?
According to Singer, three things are constantly at play within us:
- The Outside World – Everything you see, hear, and experience.
- Your Thoughts – The endless inner monologue that won’t shut up.
- Your Emotions – The waves of joy, anxiety, frustration, and everything in between.
And these forces don’t always play nice together. Let’s say you run into someone who rubs you the wrong way:
- You see them. (Outside world)
- Your mind instantly goes, “Ugh, here we go again.” (Thoughts)
- Your chest tightens. (Emotions)
Before you know it, you’re in a full-blown mental spiral over something that happened in seconds.
The Trap High Achievers Fall Into
We’re wired to fix things, solve problems, and optimize every part of our lives. That drive has brought you incredible success. But here’s the hard truth:
- The world will always change.
- Your thoughts will never stop.
- Emotions will come and go.
And no amount of external success can silence that inner noise if you don’t know how to manage it.
How Do We Find Peace?
Here’s where Singer’s wisdom comes in. The key isn’t in controlling everything—it’s in learning to let go. Here’s how you can start:
- Recognize the Pattern – When you feel triggered, pause and ask: What am I seeing, thinking, or feeling that’s pulling me off balance?
- Let It Pass – Instead of resisting or overanalyzing, remind yourself: This is temporary. This feeling doesn’t define me.
- Stay Centered – Anchor yourself in the awareness that you are not your thoughts or emotions—you’re the one observing them.
A New Way to Live
Singer puts it beautifully: “You are the consciousness observing the world, not the chaos within it.”
Once you embrace this, life stops feeling like a constant battle. Instead of reacting to everything, you learn to step back, breathe, and allow things to pass. That’s where real freedom is found.
Now, It’s Your Turn
If you’re tired of chasing external success while feeling unfulfilled inside, it’s time for a shift. You don’t have to stay trapped in stress, overthinking, or feeling like life is running you instead of the other way around.
Let’s clean up the “house” of your mind together. Book a call with me, and let’s create a life where success isn’t just about what you achieve, but how at peace you feel living it. You deserve that.