Let’s talk about something that touches every part of our lives…communication.
I don’t mean the quick check-ins or “What’s for dinner?” kind of talk.
I’m talking about the real stuff: the conversations that build intimacy, bridge disconnection, and make us feel seen.
Because if you’re like so many of us in the Her Turn community, you’ve spent years navigating relationships that felt like work… not connection.
That’s why I want to introduce you to something that changed the game for me, and for so many women I coach.
It’s called Imago Dialogue.
What Is Imago Dialogue?
Imago Dialogue is a powerful communication tool created by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. It’s part of Imago Relationship Therapy, and the goal is simple:
To turn conflict into connection.
To move from defensiveness to understanding.
To help you and your partner actually hear each other.
The wild part?
We’re often drawn to partners who reflect wounds from our past. That’s our “Imago”, the emotional blueprint we carry from childhood.
So, when we argue about the dishes, the tone of voice, the distance… it’s rarely about what it seems. It’s about old pain being poked.
Imago gives us a safe structure to move through that pain, together.
The 3 Steps of Imago Dialogue
Imago Dialogue follows three steps. And each one is pure gold when it comes to creating real connection.
- Mirroring
“What I hear you saying is…”
You repeat back what your partner just said, without editing or judging.
It’s not about agreeing, it’s about showing you’re present.
This simple act can defuse so much tension. It says, “I’m listening. You matter.”
- Validation
“That makes sense to me because…”
This doesn’t mean you have to agree with them. It just means their feelings are valid.
When we feel validated, we soften. We let our walls down.
- Empathy
“I imagine you might be feeling…”
Here’s where the magic happens.
You lean into their emotional world. You reflect the feeling under the words.
This is where emotional intimacy is built. This is where you stop being on opposite sides and start being a team.
Why Her Turn Women Need This
Let’s be honest.
We’re not here for surface-level anymore.
We’re here to upgrade our relationships, just like we’re upgrading everything else in this chapter of life.
In Her Turn, we believe:
- You deserve real connection.
- You get to ask for emotional presence.
- You’re allowed to say, “I need to be heard, not fixed.”
So many women I work with feel like they’re “too sensitive” or “too needy” for wanting deep, safe communication.
Let me tell you right now:
You’re not too much.
You’re finally asking for what you deserve.
It’s Your Turn Now
Imago Dialogue isn’t just a technique.
It’s a declaration.
It says:
“I’m done repeating old patterns.”
“I want communication that heals, not harms.”
“I’m ready for a relationship that grows with me.”
Whether you’re in a long-term partnership or just starting to date again, this tool can shift everything.
You can model it. You can teach it. You can request it.
Because you’re not here to settle.
You’re here to rise.
In the Her Turn community, we’re learning to speak up, love better, and be loved back, deeply and authentically.
And it starts with conversations that connect.
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