Happy couples are not just happy together; they are also fulfilled and supported as individuals in other aspects of their lives. When we idealize each other’s strengths, we tend to be more satisfied in our relationships and encouraged to reach for our personal goals. Conversely, focusing too much on a partner’s shortcomings tends to make us feel drained, less motivated to show affection, and unsatisfied with our sex life.
Research shows that how we view our partners directly relates to our feelings about ourselves. When one partner sees more positives than negatives, the other will have a greater sense of well-being and feel more supported in their personal growth.
All couples write a script that defines their shared reality. Together, they decide how to act, how not to act, and what their version of an ideal life looks like. Acknowledging your partner’s accomplishments and genuinely caring about their happiness helps them feel appreciated, boosting self-worth and strengthening the relationship from the inside.
Here are some tips to get you started.
- Practice active listening. Honest, open communication is essential to any relationship. Active listening helps you understand what’s important to your partner so you can acknowledge, support, and celebrate with them in meaningful ways.
- Sharing joy. Celebrations are opportunities to make memories and strengthen bonds. Shared experiences are also a chance to express admiration and acknowledge the effort that led to their success.
- Encouragement and support. Providing your partner with support and encouragement boosts their confidence as they strive toward their goals. Express your faith in them, celebrate the victories (even the small ones) along the way, and commit to being a beacon of strength they can turn to when things get tough.
Mutual encouragement is an attribute of strong, happy, coupled relationships. When partners focus on each other’s strengths, share their joy, and celebrate together, they are stronger, both together and as individuals.